Every year November 19 is observed as International Men’s Day. It’s a pretty new concept in India and was first observed in 2007. Surely, it is not celebrated with as much fanfare as Women’s Day. Opinions were sought informally from friends (very close childhood friends, colleagues, and ex colleagues) for the reasons why International Men’s day is so underrated. Replies and opinions were so varied, interesting, and exciting, that I could not help but blog about the same. In a way, this is an endeavor to preserve such beautiful and amusing conversation / opinions / replies.
The question: Why do you think nobody knows about International Men’s Day and why isn’t it celebrated with the same fervor as Women’s Day?” (Needless to say, all the below opinions were made in jest and in a lighter vein.)
- “Happy Men’s Day to all the first group of men in our life!” was the response of a childhood friend.
- “Change buddy change. For a long time we had just been the women behind successful men. Tables have turned. Mother’s day and Women’s day is more popular now. I think the reason for this better come from a man. Probably it does not sell.”
- “Every woman needs a man… because so many things go wrong daily and you can’t blame God and Modi all the time. Wish you guys Happy Men’s Day.”
- “Men’s Day kyon manayein, pehle ye bolo! Kuch khaas to karte nahi ho tum log?”
- “Kab hai? Aaj hai? Haan re manana chahiye. Saari bimariyon ka day manate hain, diabetes day, heart day, TB day, AIDS day, fir men’s day kyon nahi.”
- “For legends celebration is not required, every man who literally sacrifices everything including their dream for the sake of family, siblings, kids, etc is a legend… a river that keeps flowing silently. That’s the reason there are more male scientists than females.”
- “Everyone is busy only talking about this one man, Modi. It’s already a big celebration across the world, for what this single man has done. So you all men can bask in his glory and celebrate the day today.”
- “You guys are very simple – khila do, pilaa do, bas! Phir jo kaam chaho karwa sakte hain. Celebrations ki jarurat hi nahi”
- “The thing with women’s day is that feminism has been around for quite sometime now and for the last couple of decades women’s day has become commercialized. Probably that’s why it looks like it is being celebrated with much fanfare.”
- MEN’S TAKE
When asked the same question to men, they had a rather frivolous attitude to the whole issue. See their replies below to the same question:
- “Everyday is a man’s day why we need a day?”
- “Basically our happiness is not our happiness. Our happiness is everybody else’s happiness and you simply don’t give a damn if you are celebrated or not. It is altruism.”
- “No, we do not need any celebration. What truly makes us happy is meeting a bunch of old friends over a beer, no matter how old we get. Oh it’s a bliss.”
- “Men’s Day not celebrated just the way Women’s Day is celebrated, because man’s achievements can not be celebrated in a single day?”
- “Actually we men don’t care, and hardly remember the dates. It’s womanly to nag about such things.”
Celebrating a particular day for a particular gender doesn’t change anything because:
- Not all men are treated or understood the way they should be
- Not all women are treated or understood the way they shouldn’t be.